Falsehoods in Forney’s Interpretation of Female Self-Esteem

9 Oct

Chances are if you’re on Twitter, you’ve had the misfortune of coming in contact with the misogynist blog posts of Matthew Forney—author of topics such as Whenever Women Drink They Cheat on Their Boyfriends and How to Rape a Woman and Get Away with It. Yeah, you can see where this is going. Recently, the latest criticism is stemming from an article titled The Case Against Female Self-esteem. Unfortunately, the post has been disabled so I cannot share it with you at length, but oh do I have some excerpts for you! When the author of such filth uses a cartoon character (more specifically Patrick Star) as an avatar, one can only assume they are either insecure with their appearance, stuck in a childish psychosis, or in Forney’s case…both.

He asserts that:

“A woman with excessive confidence is like a man with a vagina. It’s an attribute that is at best superfluous and at worst prevents women from fulfilling their natural biological and social functions.”

Here, Forney incorrectly associates pride—a feeling or sensation of satisfaction/pleasure, as a negative influence on action, and instead, a mere distraction from what women are supposed to be doing. I know plenty of women who are overtly confident in their abilities, whether they concern domestic duties, or professional affairs, and have succeeded as teachers, chefs, interior designers, doctors etc., and impacted their fields to a great extent. Women who have confidence, in short, get shit accomplished. And if you’ve ever read any of Monique Wittig’s work, she would tell you that one is not born a woman, and therefore, women have no natural biological or social functions. Next.

“The jobs that keep the country running—tradesmen, miners, farmers, policemen, the military—are still overwhelmingly dominated by men. If every girl was fired from her job tomorrow, elementary schools would have to shut down for a couple days, but otherwise life would go on as usual. If every man lost his job tomorrow, the country would collapse.”

The reason more women become teachers stems from innate maternal instinct. Women are generally more nurturing, patient, and eager to see children succeed than men are. This is so elementary (pun intended) that if you study a pack a wolves, you would observe the female feeding, protecting, and teaching her young to hunt and be a productive part of the pack. The sole reason men hold positions that are quintessentially more intrinsic to public safety is because our society sadly equates strength with protective ability. Jobs that demand physical strength and endurance such a farming, mining, and trade work do not often resonate with intellectuality. So congratulations to the men who rely on muscle to pay the bills. Women have found ways around that.

“Feminists can screech as loud as they want, but they will never change this fundamental reality; men accord respect based on merit, and if girls want to play in our world, they’ll have to obey our rules. Otherwise, they know where the kitchen is. I have more respect for the starving artist couple busking down the street from my house than I do for all the career-driven, Strong, Independent Women™ in the world. Being able to sing and play guitar well is no small achievement, and the buskers are actually providing a useful service to the world.”

Women don’t play by the rules; just take a look at history. It may be a “man’s world,” but we are learning to manipulate it to our comfort more and more every day. The best way to get even is by beating someone at their own game. Read Angela Carter’s The Company of Wolves. Patriarchy defines women by their bodies: objectifies their fragile state, and sexualizes them into objects which are to be desired, tamed, and subordinated. Carter uses the female as a sex symbol to refute patriarchy. Playboy is a prime example of this. As much scorn as playmates may receive from fellow women, they have my vote. They fool men into thinking they want them, they need them, and that they’re in a vulnerable state. In actuality, they’ve got your money, are on a cruise to Cabo, and don’t need any man to support them because you inadvertently just made them independent. Girls we have to play dirty. There’s no getting even with Matthew Forney. It’s misogyny like his that makes the claim that feminism is obsolete utter nonsense. If Forney needs women to feel insecure to be secure with himself, then he obviously is the one with the problem. Anyone who thinks their words or opinions can change him is silly. He thrives on the abuse, and frankly, some girl has done irrefutable damage to him, hence why he acts out. So ladies, she has already done our work for us.

One Response to “Falsehoods in Forney’s Interpretation of Female Self-Esteem”


  1. Explain & Evaluate the flaws of Matt Forney’s theory on Self Esteem. (35 Marks) | GabriellaO'King - October 11, 2013

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